Bringing up the issue of a prenup to your partner can be awkward — to put it mildly. Despite the fact that the number of couples who prefer to sign prenuptial agreements before getting married has increased by five times over the past 20 years, it still remains a sensitive issue for many.
The reason is that many people believe that a prenuptial agreement is a sign of insecurity and lack of trust. However, the truth is that signing a prenup allows you to build a solid foundation for your marriage based on mutual respect and honesty.
Massachusetts family law attorney Jay Davis has extensive experience in creating prenuptial agreements for couples from a wide range of backgrounds. At Davis Law Group, we can provide you with the legal advice you need on prenups and create an agreement, which is best suited for your needs and goals as a couple.
How to Bring Up the Issue of a Prenup to Your Partner without Upsetting Them?
Choose the Right Time to Talk About It
When it comes to prenups, timing is everything. You should not try to bring up the issue when your partner is upset about something or when they are arguing with you about something. Make sure you talk to them when they are in a pleasant mood and in a positive state of mind.
Explain the Benefits of a Prenup to Your Partner
If your partner is not sure whether a prenup is really necessary, do not pressure them into signing one. It can put them on the defensive and cause them to question your intentions. Instead, talk to your partner about why signing a prenup is an astute idea and how it can benefit both of you. Explain to them that signing a prenup is similar to buying a life insurance policy. You are essentially preparing for a “what if” scenario.
A prenup allows you — as well as your partner — to have a clear understanding of how the assets and liabilities should be divided — should you choose to file for divorce. In the absence of a prenup, the division of marital assets can become a contentious issue, as you and your partner might not be on the same page regarding who should get what in case the unthinkable does occur.
Be Prepared for a Difficult Discussion
Prenup-related discussions can be heavy and emotionally-charged, especially if one partner owns substantial assets and the other one does not. So, be prepared for what might certainly be a difficult discussion. Make sure you do not lose your cool at any point and try to focus on your shared future with your partner, rather than emphasizing on what you want.
Make it a Collaborative Process
Do not dictate terms to your partner or try to make prenup-related decisions unilaterally. It can make your partner feel left out and cause them to believe that their opinion does not matter to you.
Instead, treat your partner like an equal, assure them that they can have a say in drafting the agreement, and make it a collaborative process. If your partner does not feel comfortable about discussing the terms of the prenup, you can ask them to hire a lawyer who can negotiate the terms on their behalf. Similarly, you can hire a lawyer to negotiate the terms on your behalf as well.
Jay Davis is a highly-skilled and accomplished family law attorney who can provide you with the advice and guidance you need to navigate the process of signing a prenup. We can negotiate with your partner’s lawyer and create a fair and equitable prenuptial agreement that is acceptable to both sides.
Be Open to Suggestions
Listen to your partner patiently, address their concerns, and take their suggestions into consideration with an open mind. Put yourself in their shoes and try to understand what they mean to tell you.
If and when they disagree with you, do not try to shut them down. Remember — it is not an argument, but a discussion. You are bound to disagree with each other on some issues. Correlating with this, instead of focusing excessively on the differences in opinion, try to find creative solutions that can benefit both of you.
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At Davis Law Group, we know that no two marriages are alike and no two couples have the same goals. It is why we go to great lengths to understand our clients’ goals and needs and strive to create personalized prenuptial agreements that can protect their rights and interests.
Our in-depth understanding of Massachusetts family law and decades of combined experience allows us to create prenuptial agreements that are uniquely suited for your needs.
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James H. (Jay) Davis III
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